"Rough sex and rough justice: we need a greater understanding of consent" https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/dec/08/rough-sex-and-rough-justice-we-need-a-greater-understanding-of-consent?CMP=share_btn_wa
The way this is written is certainly apocalyptic. The justification of sex outside the paremeters of marriage. Porn is normalised if not endorsed as creative and we must not shame those using it as a highly addictive drug to meet their lustful fleshly sinful needs.
That ultimately reduces women and men as mere commodities and using other people's bodies for satisfying sexual and often times lurid perverted lusts.
You see how wise our heavenly father is?! As he asks we lead a sanctified celibate life and honour him with our bodies as single saints. It is ultimately for our protection. Yet this world distorts it and implies , men should not be doing harmful behaviours in casual sex encounters. I do agree. Yet to men , a woman agreeing to casual sex in their minds and understandings means anything truly goes. The naiveté of women and their belief these men would have their best interests at heart is a fallacy.
Casual sex actually shows a huge disregard to protecting self or valuing oneself or their bodies. As they throw it around to be used, abused and ultimately harming themselves.
As it has been engineered by society that free love is fantastic, liberating and even creative to one's soul.
That believing everything one does will indeed have an accountability is cruel or not hip or not a true statement of fact. As the good book, God's holy word states explicitly you reap what you sow.
Almighty God , our creator puts the owness squarely upon us to understand accountability for ones behaviours, and why he asks us to do certain things and behave in certain ways. Because it is ultimately for our good, our health mental, emotional and physical. As well as living in a wholesome close relationship with our heavenly father and that blossoms into spiritual biblical concepts of our profound connection to all things from him and himself.
Yet this reasoning is seen as archaic suppressive, oppressive, if not cultish and apparently impedes on the fun and joy of being alive.
Yet these women , especially those whom end up dead, or physically, hurt and traumatised, it wasn't much fun for them now was it?
We can't automatically assume others have our best interests at heart, or that they understand the difference between what is acceptable or unacceptable. When we ourselves have crossed the first boundary of unacceptable- fornication, even watching porn and living, feeding unhealthy desires, outside the paremeters of God's inspired holiness and purity.
God himself created intimacy and indeed even sexual pleasure, without actual lust. To be enjoyed in a deeply loving and fulfilling, selfless marriage. Where the other always seeks their mates highest good, welfare and happiness.
Not self gratification or to be in any way abusive, or hurt the other.
This is how far we have come from understanding truth and our creator, whom instituted profound Understandings regarding these matters. The church often hankers after the world's ideologies and waters down holiness, purification and sanctification.
Or it goes to the other extreme of being tyrannical, and teaches lies that again promote abuse, severe control within a covenant marriage relationship.
What a mess!
That's why we draw close and lean ever closer to our creator and ask for HIS guidance to direct our steps in ALL matters in ALL things and understand his requests in not living like the world's permissiveness is out of love, our love for him, and to understand profound spiritual truths that elevates intimacy within the marriage covenant to a holy level. That also elevates singleness to a holy level and a covenant with our relationship with Christ Jesus.
That is often unexplored and that has Almighty God in the centre of our lives, and transcends lust, abuse or the need for self satisfaction. But that elevates the other and emulates true love , the love that embodies Christ Jesus and our creator, our maker. That goes beyond the physical flesh. That's glorifies the very one true God whom created us with HIS divine attributes and qualities.
That this world has ultimately forgotten and drags everything down to a self seeking purely physical level and twists and distorts everything God has ever instituted for our good and transmutes it into evil and that actually embodies the god of this world, Satan the devil himself and the spawn of heavens rebellion, whose entire purpose is to seek ,kill and destroy all that is good and holy and profane it, tar it ,pollute it,denigrade and degrade it as well as God's very special creation, humans.